I wrote this note to the wife of my mother's preacher. Some of you may or may not agree with me posting it for all to see but all I can say is 'So sorry if I offend anyone but this needs to be said because I have been treated with disdane and hatefulness and ignored..I'm posting it....
I am writing this note to you because I know that you can relay what I have to say to your husband because he has thus far ignored me.
When my mother had surgery on the 17th and we were all in the waiting room, Bro XXXX for no apparent reason asked my sister and I if we knew that our mother had taken out her 401 K. My sister and I thought that it was odd that he would even mention it because he didn't know if we knew or not and it wasn't his place to tell our mother's business like that.
After the tube was removed from our mother's throat (while she was in ICU) and she was able to talk, my sister and I asked her why Bro. XXXX knew about her 401 K. She told us that it was because she had paid her tithes. We told her that she had already paid the tithes because she has always paid tithes from her paycheck. So she had double paid.
Our mother was very distraught and asked us if we could ask him to return the check.
So I called him with 3 people on speaker phone (so it couldn't be said that I was rude in any way) and told him what had happened and asked him to return that check. Instead of agreeing and returning the check, He told me that he wanted to 'give it some thought'. We were a little taken aback by that but I said to go ahead and then give me a call back. He agreed.
The next morning I called him and he did not answer his phone. I left a message that I was just calling because he hadn't returned my call and we would like to get this taken care of. My sister was with me when I called.
He then called my sister and she basically told him the same thing. I asked her to ask him why he hadn't called me because I had been the one that had asked for a return phone call. During the phone call, he began to tell my sister that he wanted to get educated on the subject. Ignoring the fact that Sherri had told him that our mother didn't have money to lose and she had taken the money out in case we had to pay for her funeral.
I then called him from my phone and he (a second time) wouldn't answer his phone. I won't deny that I was irate and upset because I felt that he was trying to keep my mother's money even though she had requested that it be returned. I left a message telling him that I didn't want to call the head of the UPC or APS but I would if the check wasn't returned.
He then called my sister a second time (instead of me) and proceeded to tell her that he felt that I have a spirit. She had the phone on speaker and there was another person in the room as well as myself that heard what he said. I took the phone out of my sister's hand and proceeded to tell him that I didn't appreciate him talking about me behind my back and saying that I had a spirit. He told me that he shouldn't have said that and he was sorry. His tone was angry, He then told me that he would mail the check. I was in the process of asking him if he knew the address. He hung up on me.
I hadn't seen him and as far as I was concerned it was over.
Yesterday he came into my mother's room as they were getting her ready to take to surgery. I was VERY nice to him and said "Oh there you are. I was just about to call you. We didn't expect Momma to go to surgery until 4 but they came in just now to take her in early."
He looked and me and ignored me and wouldn't even say as much as hello. I thought he was acting rude but didn't say anything.
They asked him to step out until my mother could get onto her surgery gurney.
As my mother began to move to the other bed, her abscess burst and blood went everywhere. The nurses and I had to calm her down and clean her up before rolling her out into the hall.
As she was about to be taken out, he stepped into the room and again ignored me and told the nurses that he wanted to pray for her.
He took his cowboy hat off and laid it on top of my mother's abscessed stomach. (which is very unsanitary before surgery) and we all prayed for my mother.
The nurses rolled her out of her room, he had to walk past me to leave. He very rudely brushed his shoulder past me and began to leave. He hadn't said hello and he wasn't going to say goodbye.
Honestly his behaviour shocked me. I said 'Bro. XXXX'. His back was to me but he paused and kept walking so I said 'Bro. XXXX' again. He still continued to walk away. So I said 'BRO XXXX' a third time. He couldn't pretend that he hadn't heard me this time. He turned around with a scowl on his face and I said 'You're not running off are you?" I said this in a very nice and friendly way. He stuck both of his thumbs up and jabbed them away from me and said "No I'm not running, I'm walking" and proceeded to turn his back on me and walk away.
My mother heard this as she was being taken to surgery.
Wow that is some kind of man of God!
I am amazed and disappointed. What kind of testimony is that?
The last sermon I heard him preach was about love. He doesn't seem to be able to practice what he preaches.
God Bless

Is It Worth The Trouble?

I've come to the conclusion that there may not be a life mate for me. Seriously.
Men can be sooooooooooo.....annoying. And yet I find myself wanting one! But then I find myself thinking that it may just be more trouble than it's worth.
I've dated over the last few years but haven't found anyone that I am completely attracted to....My friends tell me that I am just too picky. Well Heck yeah I'm picky! Why shouldn't I be?
I really don't think I'm all that picky but I do know what I want....shall I tell you?
Ok since you asked:

1. At least 5' 11" because I'm 5'6" and I wear heels alot...and I don't want to duck when I'm getting a kiss. :)
2. Kissing now that I mentioned it....A man really needs to know how to kiss! Kissing an unmoving object is simply NOT enjoyable.
3. And PLEASE don't shake like you are scared out of your wits when you kiss me! Scared isn't sexy. Just so you know. :)
4. Really should be at the top of the list but...a man must have a job. That's all I'm going to say about that...
5. Yes I like a to have my doors opened and my chairs pulled out....my feet rubbed and my back massaged...oh sorry I got carried away.
6. Smoking is a NO GO. Period. Thanks but no thanks. Go find a smoker and make her happy...
7. Drugs are for losers...and I'm no looser. Bye bye :)
8. Too skinny isn't my cup of tea and neither is too fat...but I do like a manly man.
9.Faith and belief in God is a must....don't have to be perfect...just making an effort.
10. Tan is good...Tanner is better...just my opinion..you don't have to agree...this is my list after all. ;)
11. No hypocrites ...in any aspect...Say what you mean and mean what you say.
12. Have a back bone.
13. Teeth....Please! No yellow, rotten, missing or gold teeth. Just clean white teeth for me!
14. If jail is where you spend most of your time...I don't write letters or send money...so you must not be for me!
15. If you can't be with one woman...(me) PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stay away from me!
16. Don't think I'm going to fix you dinner on Monday night after you partied all weekend with your friends...It ain't happening.
17. If you want a date with me...don't think you can call on Friday for a date that night,..Ive already got a date...:)
18. I do tend to like (a little) younger a little better than older...Don't ask me why...just do...
19. Did I mention dressing? A guy really needs to know how to clean up...and smell good ;)
20. Cursing is so unattractive.
21. If a man wants to get to know me...then do it in person. I don't have the time or the patience to text...send pictures....yada yada yada...

Okay that about sums it up...What do you think? Am I too picky? Do I expect too much? Is there any such man? And if there is...Is he worth the trouble. I sure hope so....

Old School?

I went to Walmart today and as I walked around I couldn't help but notice how sloppy a lot of people are! For real! Now I know it's just Walmart and no one is going to put on their Sunday best but, come on now do they have to go bare foot and wear their pajamas? And is it asking too much for them to at least comb their hair?
As I walked around the produce section a man passed me with hair that looked like it had never been touched by a comb. No joke! I kept looking at his head expecting a bird to take flight...a BIG bird! I felt a strong urge to cover the tomatoes that I was about to put in my basket. It wouldn't do for something from his hair to jump onto my tomato!
I may not have grown up with money and the new styles that it could buy but I was taught to take a bath, brush my teeth and hair...and at least iron the clothes that I had...
Maybe I'm 'old school'...maybe it's okay to go look for a job with jeans and a t-shirt on...or apply for an apartment with bare feet and a baby who has nothing on but a diaper (in the winter)...or go to church with the same clothes on that you wear to the baseball field...Uh oh I may have stepped on a few toes with that one...but seriously what happened to RESPECT?
Respect for yourself as well as others and most of all God?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that if a person doesn't have the best clothes that they shouldn't go into the public but, for heaven's sake if you don't respect yourself enough not to show your 'front butt' with a too-tight shirt on that isn't long enough to cover it...Please!!! Please!! think about the rest of us and spare us the horror!
As far as getting dressed for church..well I guess I am old school...It is my opinion (yes I know, I'm opinionated) that a person should always...ALWAYS look their best at church. Even if their best is jeans and a t-shirt..it should be clean and wrinkle free...After all what if God decided not to show up and give you HIS best? I'm just saying...that's my opinion...
Ok I've ranted enough...so I'm going to take my old school self to Farmersville and feed a few chickens for a little while... ;)