I wrote this note to the wife of my mother's preacher. Some of you may or may not agree with me posting it for all to see but all I can say is 'So sorry if I offend anyone but this needs to be said because I have been treated with disdane and hatefulness and ignored..I'm posting it....
I am writing this note to you because I know that you can relay what I have to say to your husband because he has thus far ignored me.
When my mother had surgery on the 17th and we were all in the waiting room, Bro XXXX for no apparent reason asked my sister and I if we knew that our mother had taken out her 401 K. My sister and I thought that it was odd that he would even mention it because he didn't know if we knew or not and it wasn't his place to tell our mother's business like that.
After the tube was removed from our mother's throat (while she was in ICU) and she was able to talk, my sister and I asked her why Bro. XXXX knew about her 401 K. She told us that it was because she had paid her tithes. We told her that she had already paid the tithes because she has always paid tithes from her paycheck. So she had double paid.
Our mother was very distraught and asked us if we could ask him to return the check.
So I called him with 3 people on speaker phone (so it couldn't be said that I was rude in any way) and told him what had happened and asked him to return that check. Instead of agreeing and returning the check, He told me that he wanted to 'give it some thought'. We were a little taken aback by that but I said to go ahead and then give me a call back. He agreed.
The next morning I called him and he did not answer his phone. I left a message that I was just calling because he hadn't returned my call and we would like to get this taken care of. My sister was with me when I called.
He then called my sister and she basically told him the same thing. I asked her to ask him why he hadn't called me because I had been the one that had asked for a return phone call. During the phone call, he began to tell my sister that he wanted to get educated on the subject. Ignoring the fact that Sherri had told him that our mother didn't have money to lose and she had taken the money out in case we had to pay for her funeral.
I then called him from my phone and he (a second time) wouldn't answer his phone. I won't deny that I was irate and upset because I felt that he was trying to keep my mother's money even though she had requested that it be returned. I left a message telling him that I didn't want to call the head of the UPC or APS but I would if the check wasn't returned.
He then called my sister a second time (instead of me) and proceeded to tell her that he felt that I have a spirit. She had the phone on speaker and there was another person in the room as well as myself that heard what he said. I took the phone out of my sister's hand and proceeded to tell him that I didn't appreciate him talking about me behind my back and saying that I had a spirit. He told me that he shouldn't have said that and he was sorry. His tone was angry, He then told me that he would mail the check. I was in the process of asking him if he knew the address. He hung up on me.
I hadn't seen him and as far as I was concerned it was over.
Yesterday he came into my mother's room as they were getting her ready to take to surgery. I was VERY nice to him and said "Oh there you are. I was just about to call you. We didn't expect Momma to go to surgery until 4 but they came in just now to take her in early."
He looked and me and ignored me and wouldn't even say as much as hello. I thought he was acting rude but didn't say anything.
They asked him to step out until my mother could get onto her surgery gurney.
As my mother began to move to the other bed, her abscess burst and blood went everywhere. The nurses and I had to calm her down and clean her up before rolling her out into the hall.
As she was about to be taken out, he stepped into the room and again ignored me and told the nurses that he wanted to pray for her.
He took his cowboy hat off and laid it on top of my mother's abscessed stomach. (which is very unsanitary before surgery) and we all prayed for my mother.
The nurses rolled her out of her room, he had to walk past me to leave. He very rudely brushed his shoulder past me and began to leave. He hadn't said hello and he wasn't going to say goodbye.
Honestly his behaviour shocked me. I said 'Bro. XXXX'. His back was to me but he paused and kept walking so I said 'Bro. XXXX' again. He still continued to walk away. So I said 'BRO XXXX' a third time. He couldn't pretend that he hadn't heard me this time. He turned around with a scowl on his face and I said 'You're not running off are you?" I said this in a very nice and friendly way. He stuck both of his thumbs up and jabbed them away from me and said "No I'm not running, I'm walking" and proceeded to turn his back on me and walk away.
My mother heard this as she was being taken to surgery.
Wow that is some kind of man of God!
I am amazed and disappointed. What kind of testimony is that?
The last sermon I heard him preach was about love. He doesn't seem to be able to practice what he preaches.
God Bless